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We understand the challenge that comes with trying to find the right hookup forums to sign up for. We've all signed up for forums that ended up not being what we wanted them to be. The discussion wasn't as captivating as we'd hoped, and the other singles were not as hot as advertised. That's why we've put in a little extra work and found a huge collection of hookup forums that we think you'll want to check out, based on your interests (all carefully categorized near the bottom of this page), and present InstantHookups.com's Best Hookup Forum Directory

The directory is down by the bottom if we're boring you. We love message boards though, so want to examine them a bit.

Connecting Fans Before Message Boards

How did people who were into the same thing connect back before the internet? There were of course fan clubs, which were run by the managers of popular bands. You would send $5 along with a self addressed stamped envelope to a PO box somewhere, and you'd get back a fan club membership card, and a newsletter supposedly written by your favorite singer, even though it surely wasn't. You'd then be added to the band's fan club list, and you'd get fairly infrequent updates in the mail. Never too many, because they wanted a little bit of that $5 to go towards buying a new car.

Small press zines then became very popular among do-it-yourself punk and indie rock communities. Fans would make very crude self-produced magazines about their favorite bands, genres of music, etc., and then trade them by mailing with other people who had heard about them by word of mouth. It was an incredible and very inspired moment in time for music fans (especially those in small towns, who might not have access to big record stores that carried more obscure albums). This later moved on to happen with all sorts of interests including film, art, and politics. Zines still somehow exist, and when you come across a well-made zine about contemporary subjects, we can't help but feel a little bit emotional. The tactile nature of them is something that we're severely lacking in the age of the internet.

Do You Remember BBSes?

How did people who were into the same thing connect back before the internet? There were of course fan clubs, which were run by the managers of popular bands. You would send $5 along with a self addressed stamped envelope to a PO box somewhere, and you'd get back a fan club membership card, and a newsletter supposedly written by your favorite singer, even though it surely wasn't. You'd then be added to the band's fan club list, and you'd get fairly infrequent updates in the mail. Never too many, because they wanted a little bit of that $5 to go towards buying a new car.

Small press zines then became very popular among do-it-yourself punk and indie rock communities. Fans would make very crude self-produced magazines about their favorite bands, genres of music, etc., and then trade them by mailing with other people who had heard about them by word of mouth. It was an incredible and very inspired moment in time for music fans (especially those in small towns, who might not have access to big record stores that carried more obscure albums). This later moved on to happen with all sorts of interests including film, art, and politics. Zines still somehow exist, and when you come across a well-made zine about contemporary subjects, we can't help but feel a little bit emotional. The tactile nature of them is something that we're severely lacking in the age of the internet.

Print Personals

Another way that people would find hookups before the advent of the internet was by placing personal ads in the backs of their local newspapers. Alongside postage stamp sized ads about selling an old Ford truck that had a little bit of rust, but ran just fine, were tiny blocks of text where people would attempt to describe themselves and what they were looking for in a partner in as concise a manner as possible, because classified ads were paid for by the word. They'd include their phone numbers with the ads, and would basically be inviting anyone had purchased that day's newspaper to phone them. That included creeps, and teenagers who thought it was a blast to crank call people who they saw as being so impossibly lonely and sad, that they were begging everyone with a newspaper subscription to date them.

In the UK, personal ads were known as the lonely hearts column, but in America, classified ads were huge business for newspaper publishers. In 2003, it's estimated that newspapers were pulling in close to $16 billion in classified ad revenue. Just 4 years later, as the internet became more popular, and dating forums became more common and easily accessible, those ad revenues plummeted. As much as 30% each year. The internet was the new king of the classified ad, and online dating was about to explode.

Let's Rewind

In the late 1970's a new dating service called Great Expectations was founded, which in order to find a match, you would go into a Great Expectations office and record a video message where you introduced yourself, shared some personal details, and told the camera what you were looking for in a potential partner. If was of course one of the most bone chillingly awkward thing that has existed. Imagine doing that yourself, while sitting on a stool like you were getting your portrait taken at Sears, and all the while, you're wearing your finest outfit… FROM THE 70'S!

There are versions of it now of course, with cell phones making it so easy to take a video of yourself wherever you are, and often those videos presenting as accurate a representation of you as possible, but we think that largely because of the failure of video dating in the 70's and 80's, investors are still shy about investing in the technology to create a better and more effective version, for fear of losing the shirt off their backs.

Online Dating

The internet put all of the world's knowledge at our fingertips, but of course the first thing we did was figure out how we could use it to access pornography, and improve our love and sex lives. It's an amazing thing that we do as a society every time there's a new invention or technological advancement. Its original use is modified in some way to connect it to our sex drives.

Hookup forums were far more general at the early days, just because we hadn't figured the internet out yet. The idea was, "We can use the internet to find other people who want to have sex in my city. Amazing!" But as online dating sites became big business, the sites were also finding that their customers weren't as satisfied as they wanted them to be, and that repeat business was going to be important to them. So when Online Dater A had a good time dating Online Dater B, but not Online Dater C, they looked into why, and realized it was because everyone wants something different. So more niche forums and websites began popping up all over the net, based on what the companies thought people were looking for.

There are dating sites for specific ethnicities who are encouraged within their communities to not date outside their race/religion. Sites like J-date are incredibly popular, but also because the information that companies have based on research, they're able to adjust the prices they charge based on what group of people they're servicing. You can charge more money for a dating site for yuppies, because they have a lot of disposable income. You can't charge that same price for a dating site that serves a group that makes less money though. It might be the exact same service, just with a few pictures swapped out for people in different styles of clothes, but it's all a part of the fascinating online dating industry.

We could go on and on, but you're probably getting tired of hearing from us. You want to get to the hookup forum directory, right? So without further ado, we present...

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New Ways To Find Love

While the internet is still the most popular way for people to find dates in our time, people are beginning to try to reconnect with the real world, and look for partners in real world environments such as speed dating nights. Speed dating feels kind of passé, but is still more popular than you probably think. Did you know that libraries have speed dating events almost monthly (if not more) because of how popular they are? This is a mixture of people trying to reconnect with the world, but also older generations who haven't trained themselves in how to use computers well enough to browse online dating sites. They'd have to ask their sons or daughters to come over and help them setup a dating profile, and that might be a little more awkward than they want to deal with. Who would take their profile picture even if their kids setup their accounts? You can't ask your spawn to take a picture of you in your bra and panties that you want to post on an interracial dating site for seniors. For older people, dating events are the best and least embarrassing option available to them.

So while the internet still sits on the throne, it's not without its competition. We're even moving away from dating forums with the advent of dating apps. We don't choose our hookups based on a well-written profile that makes us laugh anymore. Now it's often more important that their pics are cute, and they're able to meet you at your place within 5 minutes for a quickie. Dating people based on their proximity is a new thing that's one of the most interesting things about modern dating. It puts forward the question of whether or not it really matters who you're hooking up with if you're not planning to ever see the person again anyways. You can find someone who maybe isn't as cute as the guy or girl who's across town, but will save you 40 minutes of waiting to let loose, and is cute enough that you won't regret it the next day.

The constant access to dating sites via phone apps is another thing that's changing the way we find action in a big way. We can now find a date while we're at work in the middle of a meeting about a very important project. We frequently see people swiping left and right on their cell phones on their morning commute. Online dating has become a time passer more than it has a sincere attempt to find a partner for some people.

That's a whole other discussion though. Please scroll back up and enjoy the dating forum links. We're extremely happy with the way it came out, and we think you will be too.

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